I had a work/life realization last week that came about in a super unexpected way…
It was Saturday, and the weather was nice.
I was spending the whole day with a good friend I don’t see enough of, and we stopped at my favorite wine bar for early afternoon drinks.
Apparently I wasn’t the only one with this idea…
Typically, the wine bar is pretty empty early afternoon, but on this day it was packed – and only one person working in the entire shop.
Everyone “needed” her full attention.
When the crowd cleared, she circled back to where we were sitting, and I said something along the lines of:
“That was really frantic…your head must be spinning…”
Her reply stuck with me:
“You know, I just decided on a comfortable pace and stuck with it. I can only do what I can do, within the time that I have.”
She didn’t ignore anyone, and she didn’t let the vibe of the space get frantic.
Instead, she focused on helping one person at a time, giving them the same attention she would if there weren’t a store full of people.
She calmly moved from one personal exchange to the next, until everyone had been helped.
Then she began picking up dishes, clearing the desk and organizing bottles.
She focused on taking care of people. THEN, she put “things” in their place.
Of course that makes sense. But I couldn’t stop thinking about how often I do this backwards.
Social Media, SEO and business change every single day. No one person can even completely stay on top of everything, because there just aren’t enough hours in the day.
But magically, everything always gets done.
I know this. I just don’t always REMEMBER this.
So this week, I’m trying something different…
Instead of stressing out and frantically trying to “get it all done” as soon as possible, I’m going to choose my pace, and keep it.
This week, I won’t check my email before 10a.m., because I’ve decided that from 8-10 I will dedicate myself to all of the writing I’ve been meaning to do but never seem to get around to.
This week, I will find time to walk around the park on a beautiful day, just because.
This week, I’m going to focus on meaningful interactions and experiences with the people I love.
Everything else can wait it’s turn.